Anonymous asked: It's not really a big story. I was at school and my friends weren't there and I felt really ashamed. People where saying hi to me but I was freaked out because I don't want to look like I'm alone. So I didn't even strike up the courage to hang out with them. It also reminded me of when I was little, in 4th grade I wasn't talking to my friend's because they thought I was lying about my family issues. So I was really alone during lunch. It was a long time since I ever was alone so it scared me. I see a lot of people sitting by themselves at school. Now I feel afraid of that when I'm in social gatherings and crowds and I don't no anyone.
Here’s something you could do, and it may take some practice. Know that whenever you’re in situations like that, it’s an opportunity to experience life by yourself or even meet some great people on your own. During my first year at the college I am at now, I was sitting alone at lunch. I didn’t know anyone, I was in an area I was unfamiliar with, and I had no idea how to feel about it. I was anxious. This went on for almost a week until I said to myself “you know what? Next person you see sitting alone, walk up to them, ask if you can sit there, and introduce yourself.” Not too long after that day, I swallowed my fear and anxiety and did it. I met my first friend at college this way and we still hang out when we can and enjoy a few games and such together.
Sometimes we find ourselves trapped in the darkness of our own worlds and the only option we have is to reach out, even if it is a blind reach. Sometimes we won’t like the things we find, but a lot of the times, we’ll be happy we did in the first place. It feels amazing to be able to push past your fear and anxiety and just go for it. So what if things don’t always turn out the best way? Determination is key in that. Sometimes when I tried the same thing with other people (sitting with them and introducing myself) they didn’t want to talk and that made things awkward but it was never anything terrible.
Sometimes it’s worth taking a leap.
